She added, "If you stop focusing on what they did wrong and instead approach with empathy and understanding, everything can then start to shift." Bertinelli recognized that being

Valerie Bertinelli — who called it quits with Mike Goodnough in November — took to Instagram to share her thoughts on what makes a relationship work.

Valerie Bertinelli has loved and lost when it comes to her two marriages and fizzled romance with ex-boyfriend Mike Goodnough. The actress decided to share "mistakes" she's made along the way and what she's learned.